A sister once said to her brother: "I'm struggling in my relationship. If he's supposed to take care of me, open doors for me, pay for me … what am I supposed to do?" Her brother laughed and said, "you need to read David Deida."

The brother writes:

Read David Deida for real help in sex and relationships. Men and women are confusing. Sex and relationship has always been one of life's grand mysteries, and grand adventures. Matters have gotten more complex as we  acknowledge the limitations of our traditional ideas about gender and attraction—from who we're attracted to, why we're attracted to them, what to do about that, and what roles we're supposed to play in relationships and in society. We need a better way of understanding the sexual energy that flows through us and the appropriate ways to express it. Fortunately David Deida's books offer an immensely useful guide for navigating this brave new world. He also helps elucidate how sexuality can be a powerful tool in our own spiritual awakenings. I highly recommend reading his writings. While you may not agree with everything he says, I can guarantee that you will find at least some of the ideas he expresses fresh and useful. Happy reading!

The sister says:

I picked (almost at random from David Deida's ten books) the book Blue Truth. At first, I was intimidated as it felt too scholarly. But quickly the book builds to this passionate crescendo not of sex but of life, that makes you want to jump out of your chair and run, excitedly screaming, jumping, bursting with the joy of being alive. And that is why you need to read the book.

When I finally got around to reading Blue Truth, it immedaitely started forcing me to ask myself questions. Still, I delayed reading it, taking a few nights to get through the first few chapters. But shortly thereafter, ready to put in the spiritual work, I devoured the rest of the chapters in just two days. My brain is simultaneously on fire and exhausted. Balancing out my distinctly feminine energy with my own masculine expectations of myself has long been a challenge. Blue Truth helped me see those energies not as defining characteristics but simply as ... As who I am, as natural, as nothing, as everything.

Incredible recommendation!

David Deida's website here.

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