A new exercise for communicated with lost loved ones
by Jayne Clark, who works intuitively with clients to help them resolve issues regarding relationships, loss, grief, health, and career path. To learn more, head to jayneclark.com.
This week’s exercise is all about communicating with loved ones in spirit, our guides and angels, God, whomever it is we want to talk to. Throughout this exercise, I am going to refer to “our loved ones in spirit.” However, all of this information I’m giving you can be applied to communicating with other spiritual beings.
The first time I ever did this exercise, I had no idea of what I was doing. It was about six months after my father passed. I had just left Starbucks and was headed to a nearby hiking trail. About half way there, I felt my father in the passenger seat and he was “talking” non-stop.
Thank god he wasn’t being a back seat driver. Rather, he was telling me about his funeral and how enjoyed the mix of music, the events of 911 (he was actually laid to rest the morning of September 11, 2001), and issues concerning our relationship that he wanted deeper healing.
By the time I reached the hiking trail, I decided I would dictate everything he was saying to me. I found a bench tucked away under a beautiful oak tree and wrote for nearly an hour. In this particular instance, his thoughts came to me very rapidly and it was so natural for me to respond with my thoughts back to him.
When I finished, it was clear that what had taken place was an incredible visit with my father. It marked the beginning of the channels opening up within me to communicate with the unseen world.
Eventually, the writings took on the form of a letter. And that is what I want to share with you.
If you have loved one in spirit or know of someone who is struggling with the loss of a loved one, please feel free to share this exercise. It can really lend a sense of support and comfort.
The exercise goes like this:
Simply get out a sheet of paper and write at the top “Dear _______”. Write this letter as though your loved one is in a different state or country and you haven’t connected with them in a while.
You may share with them how your life has changed since their transition, what you have learned, what you may still be struggling with, etc. Tell them everything you would want to tell them if you had the opportunity to physically sit with them for an hour face to face.
If you write the first one and you get stuck, frustrated, or discouraged, I encourage you to try it again. If it brings up emotions, that is okay. See if you can stick with it long enough to have an authentic and meaningful experience.
Once you get past all of that and you feel good about the letter you have written, put it away for a few days. This allows you to be with the energy of the letter to your loved one.
Remember, this is about mindfulness and intention. Putting the letter away can strengthen your experience and ability to do the second part of this exercise.
After about three days, get your letter back out and reread it. Take out another sheet of paper and really open up to your loved one. Allow them to answer your letter through you. Hear their thoughts, feel their feelings, see their gestures and write everything that comes to you.
(Please note that if you begin writing your letter and you feel the presence of your loved one and they are answering you or commenting on what you are writing, go with it. Putting the letter away is only a suggestion. It’s more important to be organic with this experience and go with what comes to you)
As we mentioned in our last exercise, consciousness is everything when doing these exercises.
To the extent that your mind and heart are open, to that extent will be your experience.
And one last thought: This particular exercise requires us to suspend our linear mind and rational thought process. It is one of those exercises that we really have to “get out of the way” of it and allow it to happen.